Leaving the Salon with a New Outlook on Life

Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.
Romans 12:10 (ESV)

Recently, the hair salon I go to underwent a renovation and replaced a row of chairs in front of the shampoo bowls. As I sat down in one of the new chairs, I flipped the handle on the side of the chair to get into a reclining position.

My chair didn’t move, but I noticed the legs of an elderly lady to my right flying into the air. I had flipped HER into a reclining position mid-shampoo!

Horrified, I tried to figure out why this had happened.

I noticed the chairs were very close together and that the handles were located on the left side of each chair. Because I am right-handed, I had assumed the handle that operated my chair was on the right side.

Well, it wasn’t. So, I said to the lady shampooing my hair, “Why would people make chairs with a handle on the left side?” She answered me with a question, “For left-handed people?”

And then, I realized how insensitive I must have seemed, expecting the whole world and everything in it to accommodate right-handed people.

I, however, had never experienced life as a left-handed person. As a result, some things would never occur to me because of this.

We all naturally approach life from our world view, our life experiences, and even our expectations.

Sometimes we “flip people out.”

Sometimes people “flip us out.”

Sometimes it is intentional, and sometimes it is not. Often, it is hard to tell the difference because the result is the same.

When we consider that every person is a different combination of temperaments, love languages, world views, and life history, is it surprising that we sometimes shake up other people’s world, and they ours? Add hurt, injustice, and bitterness to the mix and it really becomes complicated.

We may mean well, but when we approach life from our temperament type, try to love others with our love language, and assume they have had the same life experiences we have known, it doesn’t always go well.

Jesus beautifully demonstrated how to relate to a variety of people.

He knew the entire time that Judas was going to betray Him, but the disciples didn’t have a clue because Jesus didn’t give them one.

Jesus also had among His chosen 12 two who would be selfish enough to request the best seats in heaven, one who spoke before he thought, another who made it known that he was the one Jesus loved, two who were likely known as “sons of thunder” because of their fiery temperaments, and one who was prone to doubt.

It really sounds like an annoying group in some ways. Jesus once asked His inner circle of this group to pray about a very important prayer request, but they didn’t even last an hour before falling asleep.

Jesus didn’t change the truth of His teaching to accommodate the imperfections and differences of His disciples.

He loved and guided them from where they were to where they needed to be.

Most of them ended up giving their lives for standing faithful to the truth He came to earth to bring.

Judas, however, did not. The Bible says that Satan put it into the heart of Judas to betray Jesus. There are situations involving people where “…our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against…the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.” (Eph 6:12, NIV)

Sometimes evil is behind relationship problems, sometimes the challenge is caused by the complexity of our differences, and often it is a combination of the two.

And yet the Bible teaches “…this is his command: to believe in the name of his Son, Jesus Christ, and to love one another…” (1 John 3:23, NIV)

Prayer helps us do this.

May God grant us “…the wisdom and understanding that the Spirit gives…” (Col 1:9, NIV) so that we may “…please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God.” (Col 1:10, NIV)

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May God give us the grace to make the effort to understand, value, and love in a way that honors Him.

Reflection Questions

What did Jesus mean when He said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing…” (Luke 23:34, NIV)

How can we intentionally become the person described in James 1:19?
“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.” (James 1:19, NIV)

What does it look like for conversation to be full of grace?
“Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.” (Col 4:6, NIV)

If you have questions about having a personal relationship with Jesus, please reach out to sisters@sisterhoodministries.com and someone would love to contact you to talk and pray with you.

Prayer

Father, thank You for including a relationship with You as part of Your design and plan. Thank You for making it possible for us to call You Father and for loving us so perfectly. I want to honor You in my relationships. I ask that You give me the wisdom, knowledge, and understanding I need and the grace to show grace to others. Amen.

11 thoughts on “Leaving the Salon with a New Outlook on Life

Beverly

This is awesome Lauren. Very proud of you. I can just see that little lady flipping back. That’s too funny. Looking forward to more post. Have a blessed day. Bev

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    Lauren

    Thanks for leaving a note of encouragement! ❤️

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Beverly Barber Raddin

Lauren, You are wonderful writer. I appreciate what you wrote this morning. Thank you for sharing with me. Beverly

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Beverly Barber R

Lauren, You are wonderful writer. I appreciate what you wrote this morning. Thank you for sharing with me. Beverly

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    Lauren

    Thanks, Beverly!❤️

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Lauren

Thanks, Beverly!❤️

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    Patricia Gantt

    Lauren, thank you for sharing. I needed this today.. please keep writing and sharing..
    Tricia Gantt

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      Lauren

      I’m glad it was timely. I needed it, too! ❤️

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      Lauren

      I’m glad it was timely for you. I needed it, too! ❤️

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Cindy Krall

Lauren, oh how I love the way you weave humor with truth… truth that blesses me every time you share it! My favorite line? “HE LOVED AND GUIDED THEM FROM WHERE THEY WERE TO WHERE THEY NEEDED TO BE.” I’m so grateful that He does that for you and me!

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Tara

Thank you for sharing. I need to read this

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