I’m So Over Competition—Giveaway Opportunity

So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.
1 Corinthians 10:31 (NIV)

I’m so over competing with other women. Or, am I?
In grade school, it was competing for “teacher’s pet” so I could lead the line.

In middle school, it was competing for a “BFF” because you had to have one to be anyone notable in a “Slam Book.” (Yes, I’m showing my age here. Who thought Slam Books were a good idea?)

In high school, it was competing for that special boy and a spot on the cheerleading squad. And just when you thought it might stop, there was college and I was competing for a spot in the Nursing program.

It seems there may be a trend here and school could be the culprit. But after school, the competitive spirit didn’t just leave. It hung around in mom groups, social circles, and in the work environment. You may think a woman in women’s ministries would be immune but here I am raising my hand to say, “no, sadly, I am not.”

I would lie if I were to tell you that jealousy never rears its ugly head and I cannot do that. We are here for real, honest, transparent conversation. What I can tell you is that I desperately want to encourage other women and not tear them down; to walk alongside other women and cheer them forward in the things God has called them to, and I want to celebrate their success even in areas I fall short.

I want to be over the competition.

Getting over competition requires me to let go of jealousy that comes from comparison.

Over the years, with the help of wisdom from the Lord and the guidance of His word, and Godly mentors, I have made big strides toward putting that green monster in His place. With Him, I am able to do things I cannot alone.

How about you? Do you ever find it difficult not to compete? Even with those you love and those who support you wholeheartedly in your endeavors.

One of the driving forces of comparison is our largely reward-based society. Work hard, receive a great reward. God’s math is always different. His formulas are often the opposite of the world. Click To Tweet

His formulas may seem counterintuitive, but they always equate to good things, like peace, joy, and harmony with our brothers and sisters.

Are you ready to be over competition and comparison?

Our friend, Kristine Brown writes this in her book Over It, “overpowering comparison is a daily discipline.” She teaches that it is our choice to let go of competition and embrace God’s plan for our lives. Her book is a wonderful resource for the woman struggling with comparison (see giveaway opportunity at the bottom of the post). Kristine teaches us how we can

• Discover deep truths about the struggle with comparison.
• Find contentment in their God-given uniqueness.
• Take easy-to-follow steps toward claiming victory over comparison.
• Realize God’s plan is more than we could ever imagine.
• Learn how to say, “I’m over it,” and mean it.

Releasing comparison does come with gain. When we break up with comparison, we can live the life God purposed and designed for us. In the end, we will find reward in living to encourage one another. Click To Tweet We will gain sisters that encourage us in the distinctive roles God carved out for us. We will gain peace in knowing that we are living like Christ among our fellow man. More importantly, we will be among a community that works for the gain of God, not ourselves. His glory should always be our focus. Click To Tweet

“So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God” (1 Corinthians 10:31, NIV).

We are excited to offer a giveaway opportunity! Kristine Brown is giving away a copy of her book, Over It, and a copy of her new devotional, Over It for teen girls. Leave a comment answering one of today’s reflection questions or telling us what you are “over” to be entered to win. We will announce the winner Wednesday, 01/23/2020. (Winner must have a US mailing address.)

Reflection Questions

Think back. When has jealousy overpowered your ability to let go of competition and comparison?

How can we, as a sisterhood, encourage one another and help each other move forward in the plan God has for us?

What verses of scripture can we lean into to help us battle the struggles we face with competition and comparison?

Prayer

Father, thank you for making me unique. Thank you for inviting me into your ways and leading me to fulfill the plan you have for me. Help me keep my eyes on you. In all I do, may it be to bring glory and honor to you. Forgive me when I compare myself to others and miss opportunities to encourage a sister in her call. In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen.

42 thoughts on “I’m So Over Competition—Giveaway Opportunity

Donna

Dealing with low self esteem, it is hard not to be be competitive. Does not matter your age. You always see someone that is better. In my Bible reading this morning at the end of Exodus 2 was “ God saw the Israelites and He took notice. God sees us and notices. He hears our cries. He notices me. That should be enough for us.

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    Sheila Watson

    Always being pivked last and never being invited places, I’ve lived to be competitive. But recently, I have discovered how unique God designed me. I don’t HAVE to compare myself to others because no one is designed the same. #overit

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      Jodie

      He has made us uniquely and beautiful, Shelia. It’s a blessing when we can rest in that truth.

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      Kristine

      Absolutely! I continue to remind myself this too, Sheila. He is the God of all creation, and He created each one of us special according to His design. Praise God!

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    Jodie

    Donna, I agree on both points.how we consider ourselves plays a part and yes, age doesn’t matter. The more attune I am the God’s voice, the more freely I am able to avoid completion, comparison, and encourage others. This morning I’m being reminded to examine what God wants me to follow. To see what area he is asking me to help in, respon, and stay in my lane. While I do, I’ll be throwing up a wave to others, cheering them on in their endeavors. Thank you for sharing conversation this morning.

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    Kristine

    I was reading in Exodus today also, Donna! I love this truth you pointed out. We are enough. Such a powerful reminder.

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Denise

It is so hard not to see a lot of my extracurricular activities as competition. I have a daughter and and I’ve even found myself comparing her to other girls in the spirit of ‘competition’ . God please help me to destroy this mindset and live your purpose in my life.

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    Kristine

    I am guilty of this as well, Denise. I love your heart to lay it before the Lord and allow Him to speak His truth into our lives and our children’s lives. Agreeing with you in your prayer, today. <3

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    Jodie

    I certainly did this when my children were younger also. You are wise to commit this to prayer. Praying with you.

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Cheri

I realized I was jealous when I first became a grandmother! I struggled when the ‘other’ grandma didn’t share our precious baby girl. That was over twenty years ago and at times I still struggle. Our first shared great grandchild is due Feb 1 and I won’t be surprised if it is born in her birthday January 31. Lord, help me let go of comparison. Seriously, I will be thankful for a healthy great grandson whenever he is born.

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    Kristine

    Cheri, thank you so much for sharing! I read your comment and felt a connection with this struggle. My grandbabies live in another town, and their other grandmother lives in the same town. She gets to see them every day, which has led to jealousy for me. After continuing to seek the Lord about it, I felt God directing me to pray for them every morning as a way to feel closer to them. Now every time I start to feel that pesky jealousy rise up again, I remind myself to pray for them right then. I am joining in your prayer today, “Lord, help me let go of comparison.” And congratulations on the soon-arrival of your new little blessing!

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      Cindy Wilkins

      I struggle with this too, Kristine and a working on it. I’m glad my daughter has help with the boys but I wish it were me. Love your solution of prayer and will try to remember it as well! Thank you for sharing!

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    Jodie

    Cheri, I am praying for your heart and the hearts of many. I just became a grandmother but before that I was the mother-In-law that gets to be close by and share time with the happy couple that others do not because of distance. I’ve tried to keep a compassionate heart because I can only imagine my pain if I were the one away. You are wise and thoughtful and Kristine, I love how you have tKen this matter to prayer. I will do the same ♥️

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      Cheri Cook

      Thanks Jodie! I am so excited for you!

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    Cindy Wilkins

    I’m with you in your struggle Cheri!

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Rosie J Williams

I’m over being critical of other women instead of looking for the positive and building them up. Part of my personality is competitiveness having raised 3 sons all in competitive sports. We joke in our house that dominos is a full contact sport 😀 and we have fun with that. But when that spills over into being competitive in relationships, ouch! I’m over it girls!

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    Kristine

    Me too Rosie! I’ll bet having three boys in sports has kept you busy over the years! You make an important point for all of us. We need to guard against letting competition spill over into our relationships. Amen. <3

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      Cheri Cook

      Good advice!

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    Jodie

    Such an insightful observation! Proclaiming, I’m over it, with you!

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    Jodie

    Rosie, you are our winner! We would love to ship out Kristine Brown’s books to you. Please email us your mailing address at sisters@sisterhoodministries.com Mention winning our blog give away and we will get those books mailed to you 🙃

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Sandy Sunderland

I am so over it story.. my husband made a decision to move without my wanting to. After living here a few months my world fell apart from immature adults in the Village. I fell in that trap of trying SO hard to make them understand me. Then I realized God had sent me on this mission… so over it and trying to understand God’s plan for this unique woman.

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    Kristine

    Sandy, thank you for sharing this part of your story with us. It touched my heart. Moving can be so hard, trying to find new friends and develop new relationships. I am inspired by your willingness to follow God’s great plans for you, sweet sister!

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    Jodie

    Lord, you see and know our coming and going. We desire your direction and admit sometime it’s hard to know which way to turn. You word says it will show us when and where to turn. Help us hear you and stay in step with you. Bless this family, their move, and new friendships. In Jesus name, amen

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Susan Lynch

I am over worrying about what other think of me. I know who I am in Christ and he is the only one that matters.

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    Kristine

    Absolutely! People-pleasing is something I’ve battled, as well. I love the translation of Psalm 139:16 that says, “Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed.” This has been one of my favorite truths from God’s Word. Thank you for this reminder today, Susan. Our worth is found in Him.

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    Jodie

    Who we are in Him is certainly where we can and should focus. That focus will help us in many areas, Susan. Blessings!

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Mitzi Neely

Great post today and so relevant in our daily lives. I’m a competitive girl and I agree, it’s difficult for women to work through and process how to be a genuine cheerleader, particularly when those around you or in the same area of work get the ‘win’ and you don’t. The prince of darkness wants us to believe his lies–that we aren’t good enough or that we failed to measure up, or whatever negative message is planted in our minds. But truth prevails through God’s Word that we are enough. Denise made a good point about comparing our daughters to other girls in their group–I know I did that on occasion. I just wanted the best for my sweet girl and while she didn’t know I was mentally doing it, I realized I was only putting unnecessary stress and worry on myself. Those times led me straight to the Cross.

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    Jodie

    You brought up the prince of darkness…he is pleased when we get trapped in competition. Let that be fuel for us to turn away and remember how God would have us to respond to one another. Love you, Mitzi.

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      Kristine

      I agree with you and Mitzi on this, Jodie. Sunday at church I was reminded that EVERYTHING the enemy says is a lie. So anytime we feel like we don’t measure up, we know it is not of God. God created us in His image. We are masterpieces! Amen!

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Julie Sunne

Unfortunately, writing naturally lends itself to competition as we’re each vying to win a contest or get chosen to be featured on a blog or in a publication. I’ve struggled with it through the years. It helps, as a Christian writer to remember why we write in the first place: to encourage others and glorify God. When one of us succeeds, we are compounding our collective reach toward those two goals. When I look at it in that light, I can honestly cheer on another’s success instead of wishing it were me.

Thank you for addressing this topic, Jodie and Kristine!

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    Jodie

    Julie, you are so right. The teachings of Christine Caine at She Speaks years ago helped me in this area. I’m so grateful for that and others like you who are willing to notice it can be a problem we can all acknowledge and work on together 💗

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    Cindy Wilkins

    I have also fallen into that writing trap for sure, Julie! I’m finding now, the more I encourage other writers the less competition I feel and I’m grateful for that.

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    Kristine

    Oh my Julie, you hit the nail on the head. I hadn’t thought about it quite this way, but when we’re trying to be the one to be “chosen” it’s easy to forget that in Christ, we are all chosen. Good reminder, friend.

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Michele

I can’t believe how hard I struggle with trying to “compete” with others. It truly is a daily battle. And resting in God’s love and plan for me help immensely. It is delightful when we come along side each other and cheer each other on in the specific race He has us running. We need more encouragers! The world has enough critics. 😉

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    Jodie

    It does have that. Let’s join together and be the encouragers we desire for our own hearts ♥️🙏🏻

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Cindy Krall

Such a good word for so many of us. I’m not sure there’s a single woman on the planet who hasn’t struggled with this in one form or another (me included!) As always, thank you for being real but even more for reminding us there is hope for transformation!

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    Renee

    I am over comparing my life with others lives. I struggle with not being good enough. Not fitting in the groups of other women. I don’t have all the newest and greatest things. I don’t take fancy trips. As I look out of my parking spot. I don’t want to get a groupie. I have Jesus in my heart and he is a much better friend then others, here on earth. He doesn’t talk about me when I go in the other room I like being myself and with my family ( especially my husband).

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      Kristine

      Renee, I love that you shared how Jesus is our best friend. I am so thankful to Sisterhood Ministries for giving us a space to share that love with other women, so we can all feel included. Your comment touched my heart this morning. Thank you for being here, and for sharing!

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    Jodie

    Transformation is always possible with him!

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Jodie

Renee, I love your heart for family. You are enough. God has assured us each that we are enough. Keep pressing into Jesus. I believe also that he is a very good friend and he is my constant companion in a world that’s ever changing and often cruel.

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Crystal

I feel like comparison either leads to pride and arrogance, or defeat – and I don’t want either of those things to grow in my life! I am over comparing myself to others, and over comparing myself to who I feel I “should” be, what I “should” have accomplished by now.

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    Jodie Whichard Barrett

    Crystal, I love that you identified some of the harmful effects of comparison. You are right, it can lead to things that hurt our own hearts. Cheering you on as you toss off the things that are hurting our hearts. I am over it too.

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