I’m so over competing with other women. Or, am I?
In grade school, it was competing for “teacher’s pet” so I could lead the line.
In middle school, it was competing for a “BFF” because you had to have one to be anyone notable in a “Slam Book.” (Yes, I’m showing my age here. Who thought Slam Books were a good idea?)
In high school, it was competing for that special boy and a spot on the cheerleading squad. And just when you thought it might stop, there was college and I was competing for a spot in the Nursing program.
It seems there may be a trend here and school could be the culprit. But after school, the competitive spirit didn’t just leave. It hung around in mom groups, social circles, and in the work environment. You may think a woman in women’s ministries would be immune but here I am raising my hand to say, “no, sadly, I am not.”
I would lie if I were to tell you that jealousy never rears its ugly head and I cannot do that. We are here for real, honest, transparent conversation. What I can tell you is that I desperately want to encourage other women and not tear them down; to walk alongside other women and cheer them forward in the things God has called them to, and I want to celebrate their success even in areas I fall short.
I want to be over the competition.
Getting over competition requires me to let go of jealousy that comes from comparison.
Over the years, with the help of wisdom from the Lord and the guidance of His word, and Godly mentors, I have made big strides toward putting that green monster in His place. With Him, I am able to do things I cannot alone.
How about you? Do you ever find it difficult not to compete? Even with those you love and those who support you wholeheartedly in your endeavors.
One of the driving forces of comparison is our largely reward-based society. Work hard, receive a great reward. God’s math is always different. His formulas are often the opposite of the world. Click To Tweet
His formulas may seem counterintuitive, but they always equate to good things, like peace, joy, and harmony with our brothers and sisters.
Are you ready to be over competition and comparison?
Our friend, Kristine Brown writes this in her book Over It, “overpowering comparison is a daily discipline.” She teaches that it is our choice to let go of competition and embrace God’s plan for our lives. Her book is a wonderful resource for the woman struggling with comparison (see giveaway opportunity at the bottom of the post). Kristine teaches us how we can
• Discover deep truths about the struggle with comparison.
• Find contentment in their God-given uniqueness.
• Take easy-to-follow steps toward claiming victory over comparison.
• Realize God’s plan is more than we could ever imagine.
• Learn how to say, “I’m over it,” and mean it.
Releasing comparison does come with gain. When we break up with comparison, we can live the life God purposed and designed for us. In the end, we will find reward in living to encourage one another. Click To Tweet We will gain sisters that encourage us in the distinctive roles God carved out for us. We will gain peace in knowing that we are living like Christ among our fellow man. More importantly, we will be among a community that works for the gain of God, not ourselves. His glory should always be our focus. Click To Tweet
“So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God” (1 Corinthians 10:31, NIV).
We are excited to offer a giveaway opportunity! Kristine Brown is giving away a copy of her book, Over It, and a copy of her new devotional, Over It for teen girls. Leave a comment answering one of today’s reflection questions or telling us what you are “over” to be entered to win. We will announce the winner Wednesday, 01/23/2020. (Winner must have a US mailing address.)