At one of my first jobs after college, I was an art director for an Indianapolis ad agency. I worked with some really talented and intelligent people. I reveled in the discussions about advertising and design, laughed at the witty, irreverent conversations, and drooled over boards of Pantone color chips. I thought the guys I worked with were amazing and I wanted to be more like them.
Until one day when the man I admired the most (OK, maybe I had a crush on him) threw a diva hissy fit. The client wanted to change the colors on a project he had worked hard on. I remember him throwing up his hands, saying, “I’m over it!” and stomping out, leaving the rest of us to pick up the pieces.
How dare he, right? But let’s be real—because that’s what the Sisterhood is all about, being real. Haven’t we all been fed up before and wanted to just walk away? Or actually done that?
- The kids don’t listen, and you shout, “I’m over it!” and leave the room.
- Your spouse leaves his socks on the living room floor again and you say, “I’m over it!” and stomp off to bed.
- You no longer care about someone like you used to, so you declare that you’re over him.
- You bounce another check and declare, “I’m over it!”—and since you don’t have enough for your house payment now anyway, you decide to go shopping.
- The pastor steps on your toes during his sermon, and you sleep in the next Sunday, because you’re over it. Who needs church anyway?
- You post a Facebook rant saying you’re so over it—all the bickering and judgment—without sparing a thought for the people you offend and judge as you unfriend them.
When we stop caring—or care so much we have to let it go to save our sanity—we declare that we are over it (whatever it happens to be).Here’s the truth: we make lots of fuss about some pretty unimportant things, things over which we have zero control. Yet we persist in being part of things we should have given up a long time ago. Click To Tweet
The blame game
It’s easier to let ourselves believe that all that is wrong in our lives is because of someone else. We want to blame our dissatisfaction on someone else—our less-than-perfect marriage on our less-than-perfect-spouse, our chaotic life on our children’s selfishness, our discontentment with work on our demanding bosses. As long as we’re looking outward, the bitterness only grows, and nothing really changes.
But God works on the inside, and if the way He stirred up our spirits as the leadership team brainstormed topics is any indication, I’d say God is ready to get to work in all of us. We’re tired of beating around the bush and tired of hiding our true feelings.
We’re over it.
As soon as someone said that, the ideas started flying:
- I’m over letting myself go
- I’m over feeling left out
- I’m over my mouth
- I’m over pretending my life/marriage/family/spiritual life is perfect
- I’m over worry
- I’m over being overloaded
- I’m over the past/regret
- I’m over unforgiveness
- I’m over distractions that keep me from what’s important
- I’m over settling for less
- I’m over over-complicating my faith
I think it’s a safe bet that you’re over some of these things, too.
OK, so what are we going to do about it?
The world would have us believe that, when things aren’t good, the best solution is to walk away. If it’s broken, buy a new one. If it’s ugly, hide it behind closed doors. If it’s hurtful, bear the shame in secret. If it’s difficult, find a new relationship. If it’s chocolate, keep that for yourself. (I can’t argue with that one.)Our God doesn’t believe in tossing us aside, though. No matter what we’ve done, God never says, “I’m over it!” and walks away. Click To Tweet
He may be fed up with our behavior, mistakes, stubbornness, or pride, but he’s never over us. If we let Him, He gently, deftly leads us to a place of wholeness. Because no one—and nothing—is ever irredeemable. He loves us that much.
Let’s do this—together
We are humbled and in awe of the way God has brought together so many sisters for us to love. We’re not pointing to your flaws or areas of weakness and asking you to do something we’re not willing to do… we’re hoping that, as sisters, you will walk beside us as we explore these topics together.
It’s a beautiful thing when women who follow God reach a point of truthfulness and are willing to let go of what holds them back. When they want to exchange what weighs them down for something better. Something godly. When they are willing to learn from one another and share with each other as they each strive to grow closer to our Almighty God.
That is why we’re so excited about the Sisterhood. We like to have fun together, and we believe laughter is good for the soul. But we would not have gone to all this trouble to pull everyone together if we didn’t believe God would use this opportunity to deepen our faith and bring about lasting change—mainly through the power of the Holy Spirit, but also through the testimonies and encouragement of the sisters walking beside us.
It’s time to let God bring to completion the good work He began in us—by revealing what to let go of, and showing us how to fill that empty space with something better. He is faithful even when we are not (2 Timothy 2:13), so we don’t have to rely on our imperfect abilities or strength to pull this off. He is “able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine” (Ephesians 3:20-21, NIV). He is judicious and wise and creative in his methods. He loves you, and He will stick with you as long as it takes. Because God’s work in us is never over.
And you couldn’t be in a safer place or among better company.