My heart shattered.
The words I heard shocked me and rocked me.
How can this be? Why is she saying these things to me? I love her. I thought she loved me.
When the assault was complete, and I tried to explain, it was too late. Our friendship was dead.
I can still see the scene. The moment is a marker in my life.
Why? What? How can this be?
My friend was the best kind of a neighbor a gal could have when you move into a new community. She was kind, giving and funny.
We shared life: Christmas Eve, weddings, births, deaths, and all in-between. So, how can we go from bliss to a battle so quickly?
I wept as I turned away from my friend.
I had just lost a part of me.
My heart was confetti, and it blew away in the wild, wind of woundedness.
As time marched on and selfishness took root, I got mad, and I stayed that way for a long time. Too long.
Consumption filled me and ignited “rightness and righteousness.” It was ugly, friends.
God got ahold of my heart and the Holy Spirit whispered, “What part did you play in this hurt?”
Yikes? Part? I did not have a role in the split-up.
But I did.I started to pray and layers of bitterness began to lift away. Instead of claiming the victim card, tenderness and grace started to fill my heart. Click To Tweet
God revealed to me an underlining misunderstanding that led to hurt which played a part in the splitting of our friendship. It was sneaky and sly, and it eventually saturated and stole something precious from my friend and me. Sisterhood.
Miscommunication and misunderstandings can mess up and strip away the truth and fill a soul with hurt.
Once I recognized the part I played, I apologized to my friend and the hurt finally healed. Sadly, even with apologies, we never rekindled our friendship. I hate that part of this story.
There are times we get hurt. There are times we hurt. Let us remember to own our part of the hurt, forgive the other person and allow God’s healing balm to comfort and heal the broken pieces of our heart.
Freedom lies in forgiveness and helps us move forward. It pours in the trust we need to form healthier friendships in the future.